Be Curious, Not Furious

Be Curious. In my therapy practice with couples, I often find myself saying, “be curious, not furious,” in relation to those moments of frustration, irritation, anger, hurt etc. that so often accompany couple communication. If we can identify the internal tension beginning in us, pause, and take a few slow inhalations/exhalations, we can allow the [...]

By |2018-01-07T11:27:09+00:00February 1st, 2016|Communication Counseling|0 Comments

Ann Arbor Couples Clinic: Mindfulness In Couples Therapy

As a couples therapist, I teach skills that are helpful to couples in navigating difficulties experienced in relating to one another. The skill-building process can address many potential areas of conflict and need in a marriage, and identify how we think of ourselves and our partner, how we feel about ourselves and one another, the [...]

By |2018-01-07T11:27:09+00:00December 1st, 2015|Mindfulness for Couples|0 Comments

How Do I Know If I Need Couples Therapy?

This is a frequently asked question.  In evaluating your relationship, consider how you feel in day-to-day being together.  On the whole, is it a source of affection, understanding, and appreciation, that is expressed in ways both partners can receive?  Do we feel emotionally safe, in revealing ourselves to each other, so that the bond of [...]

By |2018-01-07T11:27:09+00:00November 16th, 2015|Couples Counseling|0 Comments

The Neurobiology of Attachment and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

I recently read an article written by Susan Johnson, PhD, who is one of the founders of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I would like to share a few quotes that capture why this approach is so useful in assisting couples in creating lasting positive change in their relationships. “Attachment theory tells us that emotion and [...]

By |2018-01-07T11:27:09+00:00October 9th, 2015|Couples Counseling|0 Comments

Thoughts For Couples On Thanksgiving Eve 2013

It is important to remember, that as we enter the holiday period, stress can run high. This can take a toll on our intimate partnerships, as well as on ourselves. Be sure to take into consideration, your expectations of yourself and others. Try to maintain realism. Unrealistic expectations, can set us up for disappointments and [...]

By |2018-01-07T11:27:09+00:00November 28th, 2013|Communication Counseling|0 Comments